No, I'm not referring to whatever your dirty minds might think I'm referring to. I'm talking about what Jeff said to me a couple of weeks ago when I was 'feeling him out' to see if he was seeing/dating anyone, or if he was interested in someone (I was hoping he'd say me...). He said that a girl had asked him out, and after some prompting he told me he turned her down. "Why?" I asked. He then proceeded to tell me that he is 'not in the mood to date.' I asked him to explain, and he triedto explain it to me, but I wasn't getting it. He ended up telling me that he just didn't want to date at this point in his life. "Great," I think to myself. "This doesn't bode well for me."
Well, I didn't tell him how I feel about him. Not after finding out that he's not in the mood for dating. So I began reevaluating everything. I decided not to tell him at all (unless he's read this blog in the past month and knows). I'm just going to continue talking to him as his friend, and continue to fell him out so that when he is in the mood to date again, I'll know and be able to figure out what to do then. For now, I'll just enjoy his company and talking to him. Not much else I can do, especially when one party is interested but the other isn't.
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Hey. Why not tell him how you feel about him? I don't understand why people cannot communicate with each other. You're playing a "game" with him in which you hide your real feelings because you don't think he's interested. And, who knows, he might be playing his own "game", saying he didn't go out with that other girl because he's not interested in dating, when in fact he hadn't gone out with her because he was interested in you. Hey, it's a possibility, isn't it? Ask yourself, what's the worst thing that could happen if you were honest? Believe me, if he's really not interested and your friendship is strong enough, the awkwardness will disappear. If you do tell him, he might (1) already be as interested in you or (2) see you in a different light. :--) Anyway, don't mind me. Great blog. Ciao.
Oh, and I agree with the other poster who said not to use the L word. There are other, more appropriate ways to show you're interested.
Thanks. I've thought of every possibility (my over analytical mind at work). And the more I think about it, the more I think I'm going to tell him that I'm interested, just not tell him I love him. Now, if I could only get a hold of him, that would also help...
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