"Can you really know someone without ever having met them? Thousands of people, perhaps millions, might say yes. But is there really a simple, clearcut, straight-foward answer? No. If there were, I wouldn't be wondering about this. But, still I ask, is it possible to know, and yes, even fall in love with, someone that you've never laid eyes on? I believe it is possible. In fact, I think it's a great way to fall in love. That way you know that you are falling in love with the person and not his or her looks. However, then the question arises if the person is truly who they say they are, but that's another issue for another time.
Some people will say that part of knowing a person is being in their physical presence, seeing their gestures, facial expressions, posture, etc., and they're right. But who's to say that you can't fall in love first, and then meet? While there is no substitute for in-person interactions, no potential for truly knowing someone without such presence, it is possible. Of course, this doesn't stop people from trying, hoping, and believing. Certainly millions of 'normal' individuals seek and often find people to interact with via the Internet. But to know their soul, their deepest selves, you have to be able to look into their eyes, and that cannot be done without personal interaction.
Each case is different, and what works for one does not always work for another."
That is a draft from a post I wrote just over two years ago. I happened to find it because I was looking through my 'Drafts' thinking that I made one recently and wanting to finish it. The draft that I thought was there was not, but this was. I read it over, and surprisingly enough, I remember writing it (but not saving it). In fact, I even remember thinking about this as I wrote it, and before I wrote it too. After reading it now, I look back at it and think, "Boy, was I naive." Falling in love without ever having met the person? I don't think so. After being in two relationships (one serious, one not, but not in that order), I now realize how wrong I was. There is something to be said about being with the person, seeing him or her, interacting with him or her, and learning about that person through those interactions. You learn things you can never possibly learn without interaction and seeing each other. In fact, there's more than just "something" to be said for all that, there's tons to be said. However, I think if I have to actually say those things, than maybe I'm not the only one who was naive.
3 comments:
I think you're absolutely right (today you, not before you). In this age of technology, a lot of our interactions are not face to face. Sometimes, you don't even hear a person's voice or know what they look like. What do we lose in this? I think there's something to be said for being in the physical presence of another human being, especially when trying to forge a relationship with them. Face to face or not, it's certainly never easy, but the greatest wisdom is in learning from your mistakes, big and small, and in having the courage to admit them. Thank you for sharing your lesson with me.
Its interesting to see the 2 diff mindsets one of a girl seemingly naive and one of a girl havening lived through life a little. But is the naive girl wrong maybe if the experienced girl had had better experiences she would still agree with the naive girl but we wont ever really know. I truly believe that the experienced girl is the more practical opinion and the naive girl is the fairytale opinion but its still interesting to think about.
lol dats pretty cool =]
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