Wow, I didn't realize how long it'd been since I posted. Oops, hehe. But I'm doing it now. This week was a crazy week for me . I had two papers due, two quizzes, and a midterm. And of course, me being me, I waited until the last minute to do pretty much all of it. Stupid, I know, but I'm a procrastinator, and as much as I'd love to stop being one, and have tried not to (which I've succeeded at somewhat sometimes), it's not easy. But I'm going to keep working on it. The good news is, only three more weeks of school, then I'm free for six weeks! Woohoo!!!!
In other news, I've decided that Dylan's (the a*&hole who broke my heart) new girlfriend can have him. He's a cruel, heartless bastard and I don't need, nor want, someone like that. She's more than welcome to him. Now, here's my question: If that's the way I feel about him, then why do I still sometimes look at his myspace page? (When I say sometimes, I mean about once a week, which is better than what I used to do.) The funny thing is, I really am fine. Not 100%, but maybe 90%. And then I have to go and look at his myspace page and see pictures of him and his new girlfriend (who btw, he's doing with her the same things he'd do with me, even calling her the same things he called me!), and I feel bad again, I feel hurt again. Yet, sometimes I can't help looking. It's like a compulsion. I'm sure that with time it will lessen to where I won't look at all, but if I don't even like him, why do I feel the need to look?
That brings me to another topic, one that I've discussed with friends many time. In the frum world, girls and boys don't mix, at least as friends. In fact, according to some, it's a very bad thing for boys and girls to be friends. They date each other for marriage, but that's about the extent of it. If it doesn't work out, no more contact. A friend once told me (and you know who you are :P), that boys and girls can't be friends because in the end, someone ends up getting hurt. Now, I'm not saying that can't or won't ever happen, because it can and will, and even has I'm sure. What I'm saying is if two people like each other, get along well, have fun together, and are honest with each other from the get-go, why not be friends? If they know from the beginning that there won't ever be anything between the two of them for whatever reason, or they're not interested in the other that way, I see no harm in them being friends. In fact, I see no harm in them being friends anyway, but that's just me.
Have a good Shabbos everyone!
11 comments:
in my hummble oppinion there is almost no such thing as a platanic relationship b/w a girl and a guy of of them will always feel a little more then friendship for the other. if your going into it thinking that its only going to be a friendship and nothing more hes probably thinking something slightly diffrent. so ya thats y its not such a good idea for guys and girls to be friends b/c maybe your not getting hurt but then he might. anyway i hope you feel 100% soon try too stay busy thats the key to moveing past these things. ttyl
pesach
Great to see you blogging again. I hope you won't let that creep get to you but I understand you being hurt. I won't even go near the friends thing. I trust you can handle whatever it is.
Jerk. I hope they deserve each other.
Re: platonic relationships... let's just say, I've seen too many of them end badly to hold much stock by them. And even when they do exist, they aren't always for the better.
Enigma-Yeah, they do deserve each other. However, I was bored at work today and looked at her myspace page, and lo and behold, it now says she is single (it used to say "in a relationship" before) and the one picture of the two of them that was posted on there is no longer there. Hmmm...And me being me, PMed her and asked. Still waiting to hear. About the friends thing, I've also seen it not work, but I'm not saying that my way will. I'm just curious.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PLATONIC RELATIONSHIP.
(Its always the girls that think its possible.)
Lol, CD. I don't think it's always the girls who think that. Boys think it too. Ok, maybe not EVERYONE is able to have a platonic relationship, but I think we have to consider the possibility that it CAN happen.
Pesach-I disagree. As I said, these two people are honest with each other from the start. And if someone develops feelings, then they should be honest about that then also. And thanks. I like to think I get 1% better every day, and I really think I do. That means I'll be 100% in...too much math for me, but I'll be 100% soon. :D
Ski-Thanks! I actually wrote about that whole friends thing because it's been bugging me for a long time now. It has nothing to do wih what I'm going through right now. Thanks for the support.:)
Jill -
I dunno about the whole guys and girls being friends thing. I feel like guys and girls cannot be friends - religious Jews or not - bcuz one of them always ends up getting hurt. There are certain special cases where it may work, but that would only be bcuz one of the friends is already in a relationship so the other friend puts it out of his/her mind completely that anything will happen b/t them. But still one of the friends is 95% of the time thinking of the other as more than a friend. So i dunno if it can really work without them admitting how they really feel.
Abby-Ok, I can see where you're coming from, and I'm not saying that one side is right and the other is wrong. I'm really just saying that if both parties are honest from the get-go and continue to be honest with each other, then the chances of the friendship working is higher.
I think platonic relationships do exist during some time or another. But in the end it is never a full platonic relationship. You can talk about how platonic you are but if it someone offered some sexual contact its all over from there. I have been in many relationships in which I thought I would keep platnic and my side or the other side decided to crack the sphere of pluto and make a move. Usually followed by "dude I am not into you that way" but one time the response was " well lets just say it got real nice from there"
Frummies are anti-platonic relationships so dont even try to argue with them.
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