Today I saw my father for the first time in almost eight years. God, I was so nervous. He didn't really change much, just looks older, which is normal. But boy, he does not age well. Anyway, not much was said until we went into a private room (by 'we' I mean Avi, his attorney, my attorney, my mom, and me). I did give him a bit of an upturned mouth when I first saw him. Not a smile, but it might be taken as the tiniest smile to someone who didn't know better. So we go into the room, and immediately Linda, my fathers' attorney, starts LECTURING us on what she's seen as a teacher, and through her own divorce with her children, and the divorce of her parents, blah blah blah. (First she said she has four sons, then she said, "No, sorry three sons. Does she not know how many kids she has??) While she's lecturing, I'm sitting there thinking "SHUT UP. I do not care what you've seen, what you've experienced, or anything else. I just want to go. So shut up so we can finish this damned thing!" Finally, she stops talking, and I say, "Well, I'm here aren't I? And he's here. If he wants to talk to me, let him talk to me." Nothing was stopping him, yet for 45 minutes he said nothing to me.
So he starts talking and says he apologizes for what he did, but that he'd like start new. After a couple of seconds of silence from me (I honestly had no clue what to say), he states that he'd like to see me, get together, with me. I said he can start by calling and we'd go from there. I made it clear that I wasn't saying yes, but I wasn't saying no. And I specifically said that. He said ok, but what else can he say really? I then look at him and I say that I have one question for him. "Why? Why after all these years do you want a relationship?" He looks at me and tells me "If I have to pay all this money for your college, I want to see you." He had just done himself in.
Then I said to him "So this is all about money." And his gasket blew. He got upset really fast. He got mad and started to 'correct' himself, but he was digging his hole even deeper, so his lawyer jumped in and said that's not what he meant. I knew he did though. I know him better than she does. What does she think I am? Dumb? That I'd believe her when she'd say he didn't mean that? Yeah, right. He did mean it. He always said the first thing that came to mind. Anyway, we left it at he's going to call me (sure he will...) and we'll go from there.
I was actually able to hold my own, and was surprisingly calm. Go figure. And his lawyer is a nut job. An absolute freak.
She thinks she's some sort of counselor, not lawyer. I see why he likes her though. They're perfect for each other.
Oh, and I had a biology midterm today. What a day, what a day.
9 comments:
thats intense. Is this real? wow.
Yes, it's real. Every last word is real. I couldn't even dream up these kinds of things. My imagination is not good. Btw, do I know you? I've seen you on Henrietta's Diet blog.
lol - yes you know c.d.
Aviva - I am in shock. I cannot even imagine going through something like this, and you even turned out normal. Well, I haven't met you yet, so I can't be too sure of that ;)
And when you wrote that your father said: "If I have to pay all this money for your college, I want to see you" I wanted to scream. Good for you for managing to remain so calm through it all.
And that lawyer sounds like a real freak.
Wow, Aviva. I'm proud of you girl. And can I meet you already?
Lol. Thanks! I've dealth with my father for years, so I think it's safe to say I know him, which is why his remark about the money didn't bother me.
And no worries, I am normal. I think. :P
Yes, we can meet! Name the time and place, and I'm there.
Good grief. No wonder you haven't seen him in eight years. Any chance you can get away with eight more now?
Yes. I can. And I will. I'm 20 now, so no one can force me to do anything with him.
Gretchen-It's not an ouch for me. I'm not surprised or upset by his reaction. It's nothing to me, just as he is. That may be harsh, but that's the way I feel about him and have for the longest time.
Thanks Socialworker. It's nice to hear that others believe in me and think I'm strong.
Aviva you've got balls.
(or would if you were a guy)
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