Last week I was driving downtown to go to work and I was listening to my usual radio station. Of course, at that time in the morning, there's more talk than music, but that's fine with me. Listening to them talk and hearing what they talk about is very funny. That day, one of the hosts was asking callers if they'd go in his time machine and what time period they'd want to go back to. Many people, to my surprise, said the 1920s and 1930s. Some others got a little more personal and said to the beginning of high school or college.
As I'm driving and listening, I started thinking to when I would want to go back in time to. I went over everything in my life, then I thought maybe an era would be better. But I ditched going back to a certain era because there is no one era that fascinates me enough that I'd want to go back there. So back to my life. As I'm going over everything in my life (my parents bad marriage, the divorce, visitation with my father, wanting to divorce my father myself, the rocky years of high school, etc.), I realized that if I was ever given the choice to go back and visit or change something, I wouldn't do it. Everything that has happened to me in my life happened for a reason, and those events made me the person that I am today, and I actually like the person I am, the person I have become. By going back and possible altering the events, I would possibly be altering myself. If I like who I am and the person I've become, why go back and try to change the events that helped shape me?
To all my friends, family, and readers: Happy New Year!
10 comments:
Interesting..I feel the same way about my life..
I think that it has to do also with the fact that I dont regret anything that I've done intensly like some people say "I wish I would have started this job,went to this school,hooked up with that person"
I did what I felt I needed to do and with free will.Any crap that happened to me from my parents has shaped me into the person I am today (Like you said) and I pretty much DO like myself.
BTW..I like your style so i added you to my blog.
:)
Happy New Year
you know your totally right even the worst things that happend in my life made me who i am today i dont think that i would change anything. thank you for being a good friend
passover
happy new year
wow, that was really thought-provoking to me, normally i think i would change a lot; but as you say, i wouldnt be the same person then. hmm...
btw i have not been able to post on my blogspot for a while now, something's broken somewhere and it freezes when i try to get to the post page. just so you know why there's nothing very new.
happy new year :)
Scary. I'm going through all 21.5 years of my life backwards, and I'm thinking of all the things I'd love to go back and change. Then I realize that of course you're right, and I wouldn't be me anymore (though some may chime in with a "that might not be such a bad thing!")
I'm loving the way you said you like you for you and wouldn't change anything. I like you, too. :)
One thing we DO have the ability to change is the present! We are creating our own futures, and what greater power is there than that?
I would want to redo a ton of things. I wouldn't want to just go back in time.
Jill!
I totally know what you mean. Why go back to a certain time if everything you have in your past is what makes you who you are today. Also, it's hard to pick just one time to go back to because so much has happened since that time. Even if I had to choose just one time in my life to go back to, I don't think that I could because then I would always say "I should have gone back to a different time instead of this one" or "Why would I choose to be at this time again". So really all we can do is thank G-d and appreciate who we are and what we have because what we do now decides who we are G-d Willing going to be in the future. So hopefully we are all making the right decisions and we will always be happy with ourselves. Love ya. Ttyl.
-Abby
p.s. I had a lot of fun Sunday night. :-)
I hear both sides of what you're saying. On the one hand, there's lots of cruddy stuff that's happened in my life. On the other hand, the aforementioned cruddy stuff has had a lot to do with the person I've become. Now, granted, if I changed anything in the past I'd change who I am now. The question is, would that necessarily be a bad thing? Personally, I'm not so sure some changes wouldn't be in order--maybe I'd be a more functional human being if I could go back and change stuff. Who knows?
Still, given the choice, I would almost certainly elect NOT to go back in time, because who wants to live through hell twice?
powerful point!
what didn't kill us, made us stronger!
Some times the only way is NOT to look back, but march forward!!!
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